Sometimes it's amazing the things we manage to forget, and we could fill encyclopedias with the sheer amount of common sense that we've discounted or ignored as we've constructed our civilizations around us. The good news is, we seem to be rediscovering some of this lost wisdom, and this time science is backing it up. Want your relationship to stay solid? Then it's a good idea to practice good old fashioned human bonding behaviors. Cuddling, eye contact, relaxing skin-to-skin contact of all kinds, and providing physical comfort like shoulder or head rubs - all of these behaviors are integral to defusing defensiveness and building trust inside a relationship. Human bonding is modeled on the emotional bond between a mother and her child - and though you'd think it would have always remained obvious how important it is to develop this maternal bond, as recently as the middle of the 20th Century, parents were being advised not to hold or comfort their children because of the "dangers of mother-love."
Love, bonding, and trust are "dangerous?" Why would we ever conceive of such a thing? How could we ever stray so far, en masse, from these simple instincts? The reasons are multifarious and the logic is deeply hidden in the labyrinths of our biochemistry, but what matters is this: A simple headline on an internet news aggregator can help set things straight, at least a single reader at a time.
Read more about it here: The Lazy Way to Stay in Love: Steer your limbic system to sustain romance via Psychology Today
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